Posts Tagged ‘LELO’

Day 41

All I know is that it was bedtime again. Yesterday was a blur. Our baby boy decided to be up in the night from 2-6 am, sleep from 6-7:30 am and up again. We were so tired, as always, and tried to catch up on sleep when Baby took a morning nap. But we have other kids.

We did have a luscious meal made by moi, Chicken Tikka Masala, and our first fire in our fireplace for the season. We put the kids to bed and me making an attempt at writing my first blog since Day 31 was a sign that things could be getting back to normal. Hopefully I am back and that we are back to having sex everyday. I did really miss it.

We got into bed and did the routine of snuggling, DH tickling my back, and me thinking that I want to have sex but it’s hard to initiate when I am not “totally” in the mood. But I just made the move of turning around to face the DH. Believe me, this is a hard move to make and does not always happen. The past week of only having sex twice during my period and grumpiness, I didn’t even consider turning around. So having the thought of turning around is a good sign.

We did a lot of kissing and touching and caressing. DH got really hard, and he played with me and was tickling my vagina and playing with it and went inside with my fingers. It was feeling really good. DH went inside of me, but then I decided to have him get the vibrator and some KY liquid. We put that on, with the light of our phone, haha, and DH went inside of me. I decided to try the LELO while DH was inside of me which is always a crap shoot if I will attain an orgasm. It’s pretty rare if I get one. I don’t know why, but it feels like the penis distracts me from the feelings of an orgasm. Well, not this time! I was really into it and loving it. It was harder to contract since there is a penis inside of me. I don’t know if it prolonged the orgasm or helped it, but I did have a really great first orgasm of the night. It was not too long in coming and when I started to cum it was a really intense and long pre-orgasm until it climaxed and was a very nice calming after climax orgasm. Aaaah! What a great release. Much needed.

I went for a second orgasm. I got a second orgasm, but there was only the climax and contractions, but no feelings of deliciousness, just the physical act of it. I didn’t go for a third.

DH was getting into his body and was loving what was happening. His orgasm was pretty incredible and lasted a while. I don’t know if it was because I was squeezing him a lot since I was orgasaming and that was giving him extra intensity, or that it was just a good night. He came with a bang and I could tell it was a good one. He said that it was awesome, and that it could’ve been a continuation from the night before since he got interrupted with the DROID blasting out from my phone.

It was a great night. I even got a long back tickle afterwards. ūüôā

Twenty Nine minute orgasm

According to the sex researchers Masters and Johnson, the average male orgasm lasts anywhere from 5-20 seconds. I believe that I have raised that figure a bit this afternoon.

And YES, I did say “afternoon!”

After last night’s rather dismal showing, we decided that we have had enough of the late night sex routine that we have fallen into. It has been making it harder to get aroused, definitely less spontaneous, and sometimes it has been difficult to actually look forward to having sex. A rut is never something you want to get stuck in and it can make even the most¬†desirable¬†of activities seem tedious.

So, today, after DW got back from taking #2 to his afternoon preschool, I met her in the driveway with a kiss and a smile, and a question… “Hey, wanna fuck?” Her response was positive to say the least and we headed back inside the house. As luck would have it, #3 decided to wake up from his nap. Fart!¬†Fortunately though after a quick feeding, he was fast asleep again. DW and I headed for the bed, ripping off our clothes.

We got out the Lelo and DW took it down there while I caressed and kissed her body. Lelo was doing its job rather well and although it seemed like she still had to concentrate a bit, she was visibly turned on. Suddenly, without any warning, she let out a loud moaning gasp and her body jerked upward as her orgasm hit. It was powerful. I wasn’t quite expecting it and I almost jumped up from being startled!

After recovering, she put Lelo on her clitoris again for round two and invited me to put my penis inside her. I was dying to do exactly that and got into position. We made love slowly as the vibe sent its¬†rhythms¬†shooting through our genitals. I was giving her a little room for the Lelo so she could cum again by not pushing into her all the way. The result was extreme pleasure for me as the head of my penis pushed in and out of her vulva and rubbed against the ridges of her vaginal muscles. She is so tight and wet that I can’t begin to describe it. As we made love, I began to feel the beginnings of my orgasm build. and build and build and build. The first part of my orgasm, that usually lasts for several seconds went on for several minutes. I could hear myself moaning as if I was listening from outside my body. I don’t think I have ever made some of the noises before that I heard. Then I climaxed and ejaculated so many times that I lost count as the wave of my orgasm crested and rolled on for another eternity.

All in all, today’s sex rocked! We were both really looking forward to it and excited about it. It really put the zing back into this challenge. ūüôā

Day 29

Wahoo! We finally had sex during the day!!! It’s been so long. The first week of our challenge we had sex during the day, but lately it’s at 2 in the morning. Unless you are in your twenty’s. or thirty’s without kids, 2 in the morning is not fun.

We got our middle boy into afternoon preschool and our infant asleep, finally, in the same time frame. ¬†We were so excited, we were skipping into the bedroom. Yes, literally skipping. We were naked so fast and into the cozy bed with fresh sheets and cool air all around us so we had to snuggle more. We were almost giggling. DH got another cold sore yesterday, so that puts the kissing thing at minimum, or more like a side kiss. So we have to touch more all over the bodies, which isn’t so bad. We are so excited and turned on by the minute we can hardly contain the movement. We brought the lelo vibrator into the bed with us and the ky liquid and I start to put the ky on and DH has turned the lelo on high. I start using the Lelo and not knowing if it will work or not. It’s a day to day experiment. I wasn’t sure if it was going to work. It was feeling so good and it was in the course of an orgasm, and I thought there was a chance of orgasm. But in the past, sometimes it just stops and there is no feeling. But not today! ūüôā I have the vibrator on the side of the clitoris, as that works best for me, usually the left side of it. It was building and building and building and I thought it couldn’t build anymore, but it did, and then some more, and the pre-orgasm is feeling awesome, and then finally the pinnacle of the orgasm and then the rush of orgasm heaven. What we have worked for, what we have achieved, and what we are lucky enough to feel. An orgasm is really sent from heaven. ¬†It is the¬†ecstasy¬†of all ecstasy’s.

DH got inside of me and I was ready for him. It was slow and sensual¬†throughout¬†the whole love making. I used my lelo on me and him. I was thinking I may have another O, but sometimes when DH is in me it distracts the orgasm. We are loving it, DH is loving it. He is going slow, and I did ask if he was okay, wondering if his back hurt or something. When I asked and his face was in pure heaven, I didn’t question after that. DH then went into a very long “oh my god” repetition, including the saying of my name, which doesn’t happen often, and a few more “Oh’s”. It then ended with a long ending of noises and faces of wonder and a laugh or two from the both of us.

Sex is so much fun. It’s fun to think about now. We were both renewed and excited about sex. We are¬†definitely¬†going to do our best to have sex during the day when hopefully most of the kids are out of the house. It’s a good wish.

Twenty-One!

Three Weeks of Sex! Who’d a thunk it? We were talking earlier today about how even when we were first together, we probably didn’t have sex every day for three weeks straight. Two weeks straight, maybe. I didn’t quite know what to expect when we started this experiment and to be honest, I wasn’t certain that we would make it this far without missing a day. But here we are!

I was putting #3 to bed around 8:30, sitting in the rocking chair to calm him and I fell asleep before he did. DW wakes me when she takes him from my arms to the crib. Even though I feel a twinge of guilt for going to bed early, I take her suggestion and hit the hay. I am counting on her waking me up when she comes to bed and pleased when she does.

It is around midnight and #3 has awoken for a feeding and been put back in his crib. I am a little surprised when DW asks me to get Lelo out of the drawer. I thought she had given up on it. But tonight is to be a great night because Lelo gives her not one, not two, but three neck-snapping orgasms! Horray! The way Lelo works, DW has to be in just the right mood and I guess today was the day. I had been feeling bad that she hadn’t cum for several days. I always get a silly grin on my face because I love to be there when she orgasms. It really turns me on.

After her second “O”, I go inside her and she is still using Lelo to try for a the third. I can feel the vibe through her body and every once in a while it pushes against the top of my penis, sending the vibrations all the way down my shaft to the tip. If she wasn’t trying to cum again, I might ask her to keep pushing it on me to see how it changes my orgasm. But after a little bit she cums again and a moment later, so do I.

We are both totally stoked!

 

Day 21

Holy crap! And sing Praises! I finally had an orgasm! In fact, three!!! Thank the Laawd!

My darling, hard working, sleep deprived husband needed a break. I made him go to bed at 9:00 pm. I cleaned the kitchen and house, finished a post, and came to bed at midnight.

The baby woke up and so did the husband. I fed the baby and DH put the baby back to bed. We were both up and ready to roll. I was so glad and I am sure DH was so glad that he got a little nap. I wasn’t sure how we were going to have sex this night with DH going to bed so early without me. But it worked out to our advantage.

This night was a night that I was horny. I can’t always know when I will be horny, it strikes when I least expect it. I mean, when I get into sex I get horny, but this was the ‘before sex horny’. I’ve been ovulating for a week or so it seems, totally clueless on what’s going on with my body right now). It could’ve been the, ‘it was just the right time and hitting all the right places on my body horny’, or the ‘I’m ovulating horny’. I don’t know which.

I know when DH is horny or really getting turned on because he breathes differently. Haha. It’s true. I don’t think I’ve ever told him this. But it is true. There is a different breathing pattern he has that I know is the ‘Holy fuck he is turned on’.

I ask DH to go get the Lube and the LELO. Both of them a ‘just in case, ya never know’. Hell, I’ll try the Lelo tonight! I’m feeling crazy! I go ahead and try the vibrator tonight and Wabam, shazam, orgasm! I hit it over the top! Finally! It was pretty dang quick and easy¬†breezy.¬†I say without hesitation, “I’m having another”. I try for a second, better than the first! I try for a third, three’s a charm!

Aaaaah! Finally! I crossed over the damn hump! I guess I was horny enough to have some orgasms. Horny enough to have the Lelo work. It was easy to reach orgasm. It didn’t stress me out or give me a headache. Just pure bliss and a release of some damn good hormones!

I don’t even remember what was happening with my partner tonight. I guess I had sex brain, it’s all a little foggy after my orgasms. Seriously, clueless. ūüôā

 

Lucky 13

If every other day has been a busy day, today was a Holy Fuck Non-Stop Busy day.

DW is in a book club where once a year, each member gets a chance to host, providing dinner and a venue for conversation. Each member takes tremendous personal pride in how their event goes and it is a really big deal. I get a huge kick out of seeing DW have an incredible book club night when it is her turn. And this is that night. So, we spent the entire day together, on our feet, finalizing the preparations, cleaning the house, and cooking the feast. (And cleaning up afterwards.) As always, book club night was a fantastic success and everyone was raving over her dinner.

By the time the last guest headed home at One-Something in the morning we were exhausted. I had actually¬†almost gone to sleep an hour or so previously with the rationale that DW would hopefully wake me up by sucking on my penis while I slept, or some other male fantasy like that. But there was a pile of laundry on the bed that needed to be folded and there were still dishes from their dinner in the sink to put in the washer. And I’m a nice guy……

We tidy up a little and get into bed. I joke that maybe we could just put it in for a “minute” and call it good. We snuggle up together though and lay facing each other on our side, kissing and fondling. It feels yummy and good and we start to have sex in this sideways position. My back begins to hurt a little so I move up to straddle her lower leg with her leg laying across my lap. It is feeling REALLY good and the combination of her leg laying over and tight wet pussy are hitting all the right spots on my dick.¬†Kind of like this but with the leg down, not up…

After I cum she is feeling like it too and we get Lelo out of the bag. It takes forever and a little longer. I am doing all I can think of to help by caressing and fondling but nothing seems to be working. After quite a while, she turns it off with a whispered “dammit!” Lelo has failed us. It is time to go shopping for a more effective vibe. Dang.

Day 9

A huge part of me thinks that we would never have sex if it wasn’t for me. That’s true. If I didn’t or don’t want to, we don’t have sex. But it is also true that if DH didn’t want to have sex we would not have sex either. He’s 1/2 the equation here. He has a say, too. For it, or against it.

I don’t know if it was a more tired day than others, the fact that I fell asleep sitting up in the couch with my mouth open at 4pm, which never happens, or that we finally got into bed at midnight. Tonight sucked. The whole thing was bad.

Same scenario as the night before, baby asleep in our room, white noise going, pitch black, completely perfect for a romantic evening, right? We are exhausted and I think, let’s just do this. I ask him if he just wants to go in me. He says, “Is that what you want to do?” yes… okay no. So I grab the LELO and have at it. Nothing. Then DH starts caressing me and starts with the breast area. Right now that is not a good place to start. I’ve told him a million times my nipples are on fire and have daggers living in them right now. I am feeling anxiety hoping that he doesn’t touch my nipples. Then he slides down to my tummy and that is super ticklish so I push his hand away. It was a complete natural response. It may have felt like I hit his hand away. Well, that wasn’t good. He stops touching me, it’s not working for me. I apologize and start to explain what was going on for me and that it was my issue and let’s get back into it. I may have pretty much killed the mood, so I stop the Lelo and turn over.

I guess we are not going to do it tonight. I was irate, pissed, mad at myself and mad at him. He doesn’t do anything to try to get things going again. He closes up and says nothing. He finally breaks the silence and says that he feels I don’t want to talk to him. Yes, I don’t want to talk but I am still in this commitment and want to have sex everyday. It’s important. Why doesn’t he try to start it up again? He knows I am in this. I started the sex. I said I was sorry and tried to maturely talk to him about what was going on with me, and not to do that again. It doesn’t mean that it is over. But nothing is said, he doesn’t respond, so I turn over. Pretty much what happens when we get in a fight. Typical. Lame. I’m hurt, and I am sure he is hurt.

The baby starts crying and wakes up, so DH gets him and I feed him. I think, well, after I feed the baby we’ll DO IT. Time will heal. Then the SNORE. It’s over, he is asleep, done for the night, not happenin’, nada. I am sad.

Next baby wake up call is at 3:30am. I feed him. I can’t sleep. I haven’t slept well all night since we didn’t have sex. Sick to my stomach. I’ve committed to something in my life right now, and I want to stick to it. Even if we are so mad at each other. Hate each other. What an experiment to keep having sex through all of that. HUH? Don’t you think? I was mad at him earlier in the day and thought, no way in hell are we having sex tonight. Maybe that’s what started this? Be careful what you say, you might just get it! I think it’s an awesome thought to have sex even though you don’t want to or are mad at each other. What happens to your relationship? Does it help? Hurt? Remove the hate and pain? Make you forget what happened? Even though I don’t want to have sex during those times of hatred, sadness and anger, I still want to have sex. We’ve never done this before. How great to try!

After I ask DH to get baby to his bed after second feeding he goes to the bathroom. Perfect. He won’t have to pee while having sex which usually distracts him. When he gets back to bed, he is instantly snoring. I tell myself 100 times to go wake him up to try to have sex. I finally get over there, about 4am. He moans with goodness that I am snuggling him. I start to caress him and play with him and get him hard. Believe me, this is not easy to do since I am still feeling mad and hurt. We turn over and he is on top of me, since usually this is the best position for him, and we go at it. I am wet,I AM WET and it’s feeling good and I am getting turned on. And from experience he loves me to wake him up in the middle of the night to have sex. He is always turned on . I know he is liking it, but he is not loving it. I can just tell that it’s probably not going to happen for him. But I think, no, eventually there will be a turning point. I ask DH if it is hurting him(like his back or knees), and he says no, but then he reveals that it’s not happenin’ for him and that he’s sorry.

Ouch. I am sad and hurt again. This never happens. I can remember one or two times that this has happened in our 13 year relationship. And it’s usually because we already did it that day, or his back is really hurting. Not because of a fight or that we were mad or hurt at each other. Hmmm….sad. It could be that it’s been 9 days straight of having sex. But I don’t believe that. His penis is mad at me.

I turn over and try to go to sleep. And I eventually do.

Day 8

Holy Shivers is right! You’d think that the 8th day would be boring but it wasn’t. We spent the night catching up on our last posts and reading each others previous posts. It got me in the mood.

The baby was asleep in our room with the white noise CD playing and it was pitch black. When we turned off our computers I put some KY on and I wasn’t sure I was in the mood, but I started with the LELO. It felt good, and I played around, while DH was playing with himself and playing around me. He put himself inside me and we went at it for a while. It felt really good with a lot of sensual feelings, loving feelings, and it was stress free. We didn’t care what we were doing or worried if it was taking a long time to cum.

I don’t know if it helped that it was pitch black so I had less inhibition of what I looked like? I don’t normally care about that, I always look sexy. ūüôā Or that we couldn’t hear one another with the white noise in the background, so we weren’t saying anything, we were just feeling. Pure sensations. I was doing my thing, he was doing his. We weren’t laughing. I was feeling good, he was feeling good inside me, and eventually I came. It was delicious and sensual and yummy.

I lay there, feeling the effects of warmth and satisfaction. I felt like butter melting into the bed. I know, haha, but that’s how I felt. Total deliciousness. I would do that again.

Sixes

Well…. Technically we did have sex today….

Today, like yesterday, I am again feeling like a horn-dog. Son #1 is at school, #2 is in pre-school, and #3 has gone down for a nap. DW is home, I am home, and it is the middle of the day. Perfect time for a Fuck!

She is eating a rather tasty looking turkey-on-rye and I am at a break-point in my work so I casually walk out of the living room, into the bedroom, past the sleeping infant and over to the “sex drawer”. Oh so carefully and quietly, I retrieve our now fully-charged Lelo and the lube. ¬†Then silently return to the living room where come up behind her and place the vibrating tip of Gigi on the nape of her neck. Just a not-so-subtle suggestion.

She is, of course, not quite done with lunch though so I sit back down at my laptop across the coffee table from her. My horny mind is turning and I get the idea to try to find a porn vid of some girl masturbating and moaning and then turn up the speakers for a joke. But before I can find something, DW finishes her sandwich and runs down the hall with a shout of “Last one is a rotten egg!” I grab Gigi and chase after her, laughing. This is going to be fun.

Because #3 is in our bedroom and we pay the piper if he wakes up, we are again in the kid’s room on the only other easily accessible bed. The problem is that it is a damn small single bed. Another problem is that it is taking a while for DW to cum today. It seems like she really has to work on it and the vibe keeps slipping out of position. I can tell that she is a little frustrated and later she confirms this is true. By the time she finally reaches her O, she has a slight headache. I feel bad for her.

We really gotta spend more time on foreplay next time and we both agree that we need to invest in a stronger vibrator as well. Even fully charged, Gigi is not quite powerful enough for the times when extra stimulation is needed. We used to have a legendary Magic Wand but it is no longer with us and nothing has come close to replacing it.

We then jump into my “turn” and I go inside her but it just ain’t working. The bed is small and cramped, my knee keeps slipping off the side, the wall is in the way, the top bunk is in the way, the headboard is in the way, my knees are hurting, my back is hurting, this is my kid’s bedroom, and between all of this, it is becoming a tragic comedy. We can’t go more than a few moments into trying¬†different¬†positions before the hilarity of the effort makes us laugh. Mentally, I am lost. ūüôĀ Time to call it. Maybe later???

Day 6

Day 6 is the day that God created People. We will be doing the act of making people everyday for a year, but the only thing that we will be making will be LOVE. Cheese!

DH was asking me as soon as I got ready for the day and our 2 kids were at school, and infant was in a nap, “Wanna? Wanna?” Come on! I told him I have created a monster. I needed to get things done. In the middle of lunch I feel this thing on my neck then a massaging feeling on my neck. He’s got my vebratore on my neck. Seriously?! Let me finish my lunch! I tell him that with sarcasm and a half smile.

I finish my sandwich and say, “last one to the bedroom is a rotten egg”. I think that’s where it started off bad. lol. Or maybe it was the bottom bunk bed we are trying to do it in, and feeling bad I’ve got to do it in my child’s bed. We start with the LELO. For a day like this, I’ve got to get the big guns out. No sissy vibrator. I need the kind from Walmart that you get a real neck massage with. I can’t be worried if I have the vibrator on the right spot and I’m about to cum and the stick slips. Crap. Start over. This went on and on. But finally, without further adieu, I cum. I’m glad it happened, glad it’s over and left with a tiny headache. I was definitely concentrating in my head more than relaxing the vagigi.

On to the DH. This was a comedy of errors. The too small bed, the timing, the fact that I’m too sensitive after an orgasm and don’t want him to touch me. That doesn’t help. We tried about every position we could in that bed, even applied more lubricant, but we were cracking up too much, and knowing it was over before it began.

Let it go, and let it be.